About
Victim 2 Victor Coaching, LLC
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Victim 2 Victor is dedicated to supporting individuals impacted by narcissistic abuse, offering guidance, resources, and a community to empower survivors to reclaim their lives. Started by Thedra Allen, a survivor herself, she understands the complex emotional and psychological scars left by toxic relationships. Our mission is to provide a compassionate and understanding environment where survivors can find practical tools, education, and support for healing from abuse by narcissistic partners, family members, or loved ones.
At Victim 2 Victor, we believe that through shared experiences, resilience-building strategies, and faith, survivors can move beyond the pain and find freedom and joy once again. Our goal is to be a beacon of hope for those who feel trapped, guiding them on their journey to self-discovery and empowering them to transition from victims of abuse to victorious individuals living life on their own terms.
About
Thedra Allen
I’m a 55-year-old mother to a 18-year-old son and an entrepreneur. My life has had its share of struggles, but it has also been a journey of healing. Growing up as the middle child of six, I learned early on what it meant to survive and stay strong. My oldest brother has passed, and I'm the oldest of three girls.
My experience with narcissistic abuse started when I was just 13. I grew up in a home where one of my parents had severe narcissistic traits, and that environment left me feeling unheard, unimportant, and emotionally drained. I spent years trying to make sense of the manipulation, control, physical and emotional neglect I, my siblings and mother experienced. Looking back, I now see how that upbringing shaped my mindset and led me into relationships with men who treated me the same way. I married two men who had many of the same toxic traits as my father, and I found myself stuck in the same cycles of control, manipulation, and emotional abuse. It left me feeling lost, broken, and struggling with depression and self-doubt. For a long time, I kept asking, “Why me?” But eventually, the Lord changed my mindset and that question changed to, “Why not me?” I realized that everything I went through had a bigger purpose.
As I started healing, I understood something important—experience is one of life’s greatest teachers. I may not be a therapist, but I’ve lived through this, and I know what it feels like to be trapped in a cycle of narcissistic abuse. More importantly, I know what it takes to break free. My story wasn’t meant to end in pain; it was meant to show others that healing is possible. As a Christian woman, my faith in Jesus Christ has been my anchor, and now I feel called to help others who are going through what I once did.
Now, my mission is to help people recognize narcissistic abuse, break free from it, and take back their lives. I want to help others find their voice, rebuild their confidence, and remember their worth. God doesn’t waste our struggles—He uses them to make us stronger and to help others heal.
If I can make it through, so can you. Together, we can move from Victim 2 Victor!
Daily Affirmations
Today, choose to see yourself as God sees you—fearfully and wonderfully made, crafted with care and intention by His hands (Psalm 139:14). No words, actions, or manipulations from your past define you. you are not who they said you were; you are who God says you are —loved, chosen, and worthy of peace and joy.
Even when the pain of your past tries to whisper doubt into your heart, stand firm in the truth that your hope is in the Lord. He fills you with joy and peace as you trust in Him, and through His power, you overflow with unshakable hope (Romans 15:13). What was meant to break you will not define you. Instead, it strengthens you, shaping you into the victorious woman you are becoming.
There are days you may feel lost, defeated, and uncertain if you would ever heal. But Jesus can remind you that even in your struggles, you can have peace because He has already overcome the world (John 16:33). No storm, no betrayal, and no lie spoken over your life can change the fact that you are an overcomer. You may have been broken, but you are not beyond repair—God is restoring you, piece by piece, into someone even stronger than before.
Remind yourself that you are not weak for what you endured; you are powerful because you survived. With Christ in you, you have the strength to rebuild, to set boundaries, to walk away from what no longer serves you, and to embrace the love and freedom that God desires for you (Philippians 4:13). You are not trapped in your past—You am stepping boldly into your future.
God has plans for you—plans for good and not for harm, to give you a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Your past does not determine your destiny; God does. Today, release fear, shame, and self-doubt. Claim healing, joy, and peace. You am free. You are whole. You are loved. And you are walking in the promise of a beautiful, restored life.